Welcome, welcome mama to another episode of the mum of bliss in life and biz podcast. And I am your hostess Kathy stool from Bliss Beyond Naptime and the founder of Mama Bliss Coaching School. And today we are going to talk about Oh and epiphany I had as I always do in the shower [00:01:00] of how becoming a coach or more precisely learning how to coach is very much like learning how to belly dance. And part of the reason I was thinking about this is because today I have my Wednesday night belly dance class and yes, I realize that Wednesday is also the day that this podcast podcast, this podcast comes out. So I’m, yes. [00:01:30] So I’m going to have to skip the edits on that mispronunciation and just wing it like that is part of my Canadian accent. So anyways, I’m in the shower. I was realizing, Ooh, to date is my belly dance class and I do hope that you are also a member of my Facebook group, how to become a life coach for months [00:02:00] because I was just sharing in there, uh, at the time of this recording we just recently experienced.
Um, the consensus is a lot of people experienced the too, a really intense new moon and I believe I’ve had a physical manifestation, uh, shedding and too much information overload coming at you in just a second here. I got my first moon in nine months. [00:02:30] So today in the shower I was thinking, you know what, maybe that gives me, um, a permission slip to take the day off of belly dance class tonight. And then I realize, you know what, I think it’s going to be okay. I’m going to go for it and I’m going to just take it easy. And I thought, you know what, it’s just coaching. And then that got me thinking as um, you know, lathering my scalp. How are many [00:03:00] parallels, uh, from coaching to belly dance and I cannot wait to share them with you today. And this also demonstrates to how one area of your life, something that’s totally not related to coaching or your whatever business you got going on or whatever ambition you have in your life to go for a goal, you can apply what works in one area and then just transferred over to wherever you’re stuck [00:03:30] and be inspired with life lessons you’ve pick up.
So one way, I’m just going to quickly share how I got introduced to belly dance actually. Um, it began a long time ago, I think. Um, about six or seven years ago I was actually taking hip hop dance classes and this is way back when we’re living out in our hobby farm. And interestingly enough, I shared my blog a long time ago how this, [00:04:00] um, commitment to sign up for the belly dance, uh, sorry for the hip hop class was very much a challenge to myself to acknowledge my fear. I was, it was the year of fear and it’s not nother whole long story in itself, but basically I was coming out of a touch a of postpartum anxiety and a lot of it was presenting itself as being very Homeward bound. And again, we were living in the boonies and [00:04:30] I did not want to get on the highways between this time of year, October until there was a spring thought.
So basically in this part of the world, uh, until mother’s day may. And finally I just had the epiphany. Um, uh, part of it was a gift from a dear friend who was facing a very scary prognosis, was just released the fear and in her words too sweet. So really inspired by her. [00:05:00] I was like, okay, I’m going to do this in a very, um, committed way. I E sign up for a dance class, which entailed me having to get on that scary highway once a week cause driving 20 minutes down a windy road. So just like everything, it was a matter of a, what do they call it? Exposure therapy. I think that’s the word. So just noticing that you know what you do get used to this driving thing and sure enough, not that we live in town, [00:05:30] I have friends who still live out there.
They, their kids go to the same schools my kids do. So that’s like a 45 minute drive and they don’t even blink. And I talked to them about it. It’s simply a case you get used to it. But back then it was very symbolic of me just Kate, like I like to say a lot that Eleanor Roosevelt quote do something every day that scares you. Stepping into the fear. A theme too that I’ve been bringing up a lot on this podcast and over in my group is released the fear so you can [00:06:00] get out there and provide support to others who are just a couple of steps behind you. So I signed up for this hip hop class and sure enough, you know I got the gear, I did pretty sure I was supporting legwarmers and headbands getting into the rule and I didn’t realize that I also accidentally signed up for belly dance class.
So because many of us were driving, you know pretty far from far away that she incorporated a hip hop class with a belly dance class. [00:06:30] And I didn’t realize this, what happened ended up happening though, that hip hop just got so involved that we only ended up saving the last half hour for belly dance, half hour of like basically a two hour class and then we performed. And you could tell the instructor was getting a little stressed because none of us really got the belly dance bit down. It was kind of rushed. So I always kind of felt a little like, Oh I don’t know if Billy belly dancing is my [00:07:00] thing. Cause I did feel that, um, I wasn’t getting the technique down and I felt kinda like a little shy but performing cause I was kind of like winging it to be honest. So I signed up again for a dance class with my instructor, but I told her, you know, I only want to do hip hop.
I don’t think I’m a belly dancer. And then what ended up happening, uh, we ended up moving into town and for some reason, I don’t remember why I felt compelled, but I signed up for belly dance class again [00:07:30] and with a different structure and it really made a difference for, um, just being super focused on this one skill. I wanted to pick up. Not only that, but I really felt that my instructor, um, and at least in this realm was really just perfect for me at the time. Um, she, uh, we teach a lot about choosing muses in, um, mama buzz coaching school and, and all [00:08:00] the pillars of [inaudible], but especially in creativity. This belly dance teacher of mine is actually in my coaching manual when I share who my creative muses and ironically is not even for dance. Back in the day, she made a lot of my clothes.
She’s a very accomplished designer. Uh, she’s a singer. She is a jewelry maker. Um, the time of this recording, I’m actually wearing one of her many necklaces. I love. And [00:08:30] the point is, it’s just kind of cool that she brought me to this dance. Um, I think we are working together for almost five years now. Four years, four or five years, always mixed up. But just something about the way that she teaches really resonates. Um, so that is actually one of the ways that becoming a coach is kind of like how to belly dance. Sometimes it’s a matter of timing and finding the teacher [00:09:00] that speaks to you on many different levels. So when you are looking into your coaching training, um, making sure that you feel a chemistry with who you’re going to be learning from and that they are serving the, the target audience that you eventually want to be served.
So that’s why I have a lot of moms who come into the program who are very clear that they want to work with moms. They understand my teaching style because I’ve been around the block [00:09:30] a few times. So I have a lot of free material online and through my podcasts on YouTube. With all my webinars and challenges, et cetera. So finding someone who speaks in a way that you understand and not to say my hip hop teacher, I love her too. And she is also someone I am highly admire. But there is something away in the way that my current belly dance teacher explained the moves and it’s in a way, [00:10:00] um, they’re both equally funny, but in a way that really speaks to the way that I learn. For instance, there’s this one move, um, is called the Maya and she uses this, um, analogy of imagining attached to your hip.
You have spatulas and we’re scraping the sides of the bulls and trying to get them actually doing it. While I’m talking, I’m trying to get all of the, um, cake batter off of the side of this. I’m just stuff like that. She really breaks it down [00:10:30] into steps that I am just like, Whoa, you’re good. So again, it’s just the way she teaches that really speaks to me. So when you are wanting to become a coach, making sure that you go with someone that really speaks to you and who can offer you literally hands on support when you need it. So my teacher actually comes up and puts her hands on her hips and like kind of like shows us where it should be feeling or more often [00:11:00] she uses the words and different angles that she, you can tell she’s looking around in the room and she gives us kind of one-on-one guidance and um, it’s really powerful.
So again to making sure that you get lots of access to the teacher, the creator of the program. And that is something I’m very proud that I can provide in the way that I teach coaching. And okay. Another way that is really, um, similar to learning how to coach is expect [00:11:30] to be surprised with what other areas of your life you are going to get fixed. So meaning I went into my belly dance class, learning with the expectation, I’m going to learn how to belly dance. But you know, what ended up happening? It ended up fixing my back when we moved from the Valley, from the hobby farm into my back hurt. And I have some theories, you know, as was more [00:12:00] sedentary, didn’t have the farm animals till Tim too. And the office I had in the house that we moved just before we move it into this one was a lot colder.
I felt I was holding a lot of grief perhaps from, you know, leaving our dream farm. Um, and I tried everything. Acupuncture, chiropractor, um, what was I try something else that was kind of woo woo. But you know, I tried all these things and what ended up fixing it was [00:12:30] belly dance. And I notice now if I don’t go to belly dance on a consistent basis, my back starts to talk again. So I do think we know we spend, um, the first part of the class doing lots of core exercises, pipe core engagement. But I like to think a lot of it just like the second pillar of mama bliss, creativity moves that energy around it and shakes you up so that uh, that product energy almost goes to where it needs the healing as what I feel with the belly dance class. Cause you know, you really [00:13:00] shake things up and I feel like moving, especially for women, our creative centers, you know, the second chakra, it’s, it just heals are holistically everywhere.
Um, so just that’s something you can expect to from learning how to coach is that things are going to shift in ways that you can’t even imagine. Also both belly dancing and coaching, it is going to require a lot of letting [00:13:30] go of thinking so that you can feel into the technique. So there is of course, uh, some cerebral components involved but mostly it’s about letting go of the thinking brain so that you can tap in to more your heart center. And I’m very proud to with my hope is coaching school. That is why I was really drawn from my own training to creativity coaching cause it just gives [00:14:00] the thinking mind a break. And that’s what I love about my dance class. It is an opportunity, it’s very much um, belly dance if you want to try it right now. Uh, the whole exercise of patting your head and then with your other hand rubbing your belly, it is constant.
We learn one move and then we learned to, you know, just do it over and over again. The lower part of our body and then upper part of the body we’re doing something that’s completely unrelated and then we [00:14:30] are coaching to doing it simultaneously. And of course it’s a lot of concentration. Then after a while she brings to our attention. Notice that the less you think about it, the more it just happens or if we speed up, it’s easier. If we slow down, it’s easier. So it’s a lot of experimentation with acknowledging one part of our life while we set into practice something else. So there’s a lot of different areas that we can approach this phenomenon in, [00:15:00] but it is really fun practice. And finding that middle road of putting time and energy into studying something but then also applying it and then finally applying it by using our intuition.
And here’s another way, it’s very similar. It gets easier with practice. So I catch myself now when I’m doing dishes, doing a little shimmy and um, [00:15:30] you know, my husband and I like to go to this biweekly dance practice together and that when no one’s looking, I’m doing a little bit of belly dance in the background. And same thing with coaching. So you learn the techniques and then the more you practice, the better you’ll get at it. And the more second nature it becomes a, before you know it, you’re coaching yourself with just a simple reminder. Or when you’re in a coaching session with someone, it’s just [00:16:00] so much more enjoyable cause you have to not fret. And you know, you got this, you had the experience. It’s just a matter of showing up and making that commitment to find those first few clients. And then eventually, um, with all the practice and finding that perfect teacher and binding, that nuance of feeling into it.
But also beginning with the core foundation of studying the principles, uh, you’re going to want to just show [00:16:30] it off. You’re going to want to perform so funny. Cause like I said, we’ve been with her for four or five years and every year I tell my family, I’m like, Oh she told us that she thinks for what are you to perform at? And then it doesn’t happen. And then finally last year we were ready and we actually got to perform and it felt so good. So hopefully you’ll have better luck in your dancing, um, in your dancing career. [00:17:00] But the thing is your teacher is going to let you know if you’re ready and you’re going to trust her. And often with my students, what we do there is actually a certification process. So I want to see all the assignments and I want to actually hear the recording of your practice students.
And as well, there is an open book exam because I want to assure that when you’re out there coaching, you know [00:17:30] your stuff that you’re able to offer the opportunity of shift to happen with your new clients and that you feel confident because if you don’t feel ready, that’s gonna come through. And when you’re reaching out to people, it’s going to come through in the session and we don’t want that downward spiral. So rest assured you find your teacher and she’s going to ensure that you are going to be ready to make a beautiful difference in someone’s life out there. All right, so I am going to go shimmy [00:18:00] myself out of here is a little bit of shorter episode than normal and uh, if you want to see it perhaps on your belly dance teacher in disguise as a coaching trainer, um, let’s book a discovery call to see if we are indeed a fit. And you can do that over www.blissbeyondnaptime.com/discovery-call. And I cannot wait to chat with you to see if we can make some belly magic happen together in coaching moms. Okay, mama, and we will see or hear me next week. Bye.
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