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Welcome, welcome, sweet mama to another episode of mama bliss in life and biz. Today we are going to be strolling down memory lane, a blog post past and offer my 2000 cusp of 2020 any way. Brain and heart applied to what I’ve written about my core philosophy behind mama bliss coaching. And it is perfect because my son is having a play date right now, so they’re pulling some Ninja maneuvers downstairs with nunchucks and there’s a big family debate. If it’s actually numb chucks or nun chucks, I’m team numb Chuck, so I know I’m incorrect, but I still seeing then checks, it’s to drive everyone else crazy. So they’re having a little numb Chuck off downstairs. So the few here, puppies and kiddos just know that this indeed is a part of what makes up my momma bliss. So what a perfect time to record this.
So I’m going to begin with how I defined it five years ago, over five years ago when I first wrote this blog post, meaning to share, you know, I type out the word mama bliss for the last 12 years. I’m in all my computers, so much so that the laptops we use to watch videos as a family always have the M worn off because they are my former work computers and I use the word the letter M so much. It is pretty much weird to see now a computer with the letter M neatly intact. So I’m really curious to see what I shared here and also just pretty much wrap it up in a nutshell. The core philosophy behind this unique coaching approach. I train mamas and mama bliss coaching school. And if this feels this is something that you two want to support mama’s towards and remind them of, then I would love to chat with you on a discovery call.
And I will tell you how to do that at the very end. But to begin with, let’s dive into what mama bliss meant to little miss Kathy SITA back in 2019 so what I shared here was number one is mama bliss is remembering that our kids chose us for a reason. So this kind of shines a light on my struggle back at the very beginning of my entrepreneurial journey when I felt really torn between my love and my biz and the love of my kids. And mama bliss is pretty much the opposite sensation. A when we’re feeling any kind of guilt or worry or concern that we are not providing our kids with the optimum momming experience. So luckily I had a reminder. So mama bliss coaching is all about putting those reminders front and center. So luckily I have a whole whack of them. But way back in 2014 I shared how a friend lent me a book even about to Benton beliefs around conception and childbirth, et cetera.
And I remember reading it and I thought it was really just romantic, how it States that there’s a belief in Tibet that when a couple is making love, just before I’m conceiving chicken bone found, found a baby soul sort of hovers over the actual what I’m saying. And that particular baby soul gets attracted to the energy that is the couples own spirits colliding. So I just found so much comfort into that. So I might be totally marring this beautiful belief and philosophy. But what I got from it is I like to think that our kids, those special little souls were drawn to Craig and I for a reason. And even through you know, using the Waldorf curriculum first as homeschooling and now with our kids going to the school I used to offer them a puppet show at their birthdays of them coming over the rainbow bridge.
And that was the part that got me most choked up when I was performing the puppet show or later when I would be sitting with the kindergarten teacher as my son wore his blue two birthday crown and she would tell the story of the angel looking down and choosing the parents being I want them to raise me for whatever reason. So when I feel Oh mama bliss sort of waning, I remember, ha, okay, there is a purpose. These kiddos chose me and this just makes me feel full of self-love, of feeling like, you know, they, there isn’t unconditional love that they have here for me. Flaws and all. And even with my flaws, there’s something that we can all learn from it. So whew. Do you hear that? Didn’t ya? Action. Okay. So this helps ease the guilt that sometimes crops up for me when again, the opposite of mama bliss is feeling shortened patients or distracted feeling just, you know, I turn into old yeller, whatever is that I realize that, you know what?
I need to take care of myself, apply self love to myself so I can love myself as much as my kids. Have known me, can see the potential in me, so loving myself and I like to think then that I am modeling to like self care and a red flag can be when I am what I wrote here back in 2014 it’s simply not mama bliss poster mama and when I’m not mama bliss poster mama, what do I do? I lean on what I call the four pillars of mama bliss that make up mama bliss coaching. So those are self care, creativity, values and simplicities. So that could just take a moment. It just takes a few moments to check in with myself. Am I losing my patients because I am not looking at my own needs? Perhaps I need to, you know, check-in and make sure I get to bed in time so that when the puppy not looking at anyone here particular is waking me up at five 30 each morning, am not hurting halfway through the day and just losing it.
So what can I do now to assure that I am getting a lot of sleep times in? Or perhaps it’s, you know, maybe I need to play more with some kind of creative outlet. Who knows, something needs to be simplified here. What can I let go up just for the time being until I can gain my footing again. So that is mama bliss. Mama bliss is also recognizing little glimmers of myself and all those I love in them. So I wrote here, I don’t mean this one in the egotistical, egotistical sense, like, Hey check it out. The kids got my naturally straight teeth and easy tanning skin because they totally didn’t cause my kids are very Berry. They glow white. Bless their hearts, bless Craig’s, you know, white, non tanning heart. But anyways, they got it from him. But it’s more like when I see that they’re catching on this little nuances.
So you know, there’s that saying it’s, we slowly turn into our mothers as we turn older, but I like to think that you know, that that’s a compliment. So a lot of it perhaps could be genetics, but perhaps a lot of it might be nature. Perhaps it’s kind of rubbing off. And then because you know, like it’s okay, here’s, I gotta back up a little bit. So where I was going with this sometimes I look at my kids and here I wrote the example of there’s this girl I hung out with a lot in high school. And sometimes when I look at ed, she just has these mannerisms that she carries. So I think that’s just kind of cool. So I feel like not to get too kind of esoteric here, but as we’re living our lives, it’s almost that little soul we talked about in bliss definition.
Number one, they’re kind of guiding us towards this path. I don’t know, I’m starting to get a little like airy fairy here, but mama bliss is when for me, when I look at my kids and I could recognize within them aspects of everyone that I’ve loved in my journey to becoming a mother, but also like aspects of me in them that I, I feel like really kind of like this is pretty cool. So they’re reminding me of all that I appreciate in other people and because I loved them so much, it gives me permission to love myself so much to and to be grateful, more forgiving to those who have entered my lives. So again, mama bliss to me is feeling this universal love for everyone. Mama bliss on that note is rediscovering, rediscovering, how’s that for an accent? I’m mama bliss is rediscovering hope for the world.
The hope for the world to just really evolve and become a more and more beautiful loving place begins with us. Mamas for re are the anchors into the home. We are the ones who are offering that reprieve from the craziness that that it’s out there. We’re offering in a way, cysts from the chaos and the more that we can tap in to this deep love for our children and turn for ourselves and turn for those, you know, for rippling out. As we need to, you know, take a moment. We need to really enforce the rhythm at home. Bringing them back and reeling back into family and incorporating you know, a vision for how we want the world to be. So like that famous saying be the change you want to see in the world. You can make the home, we can make your family unit a microcosm of the world and really get clear again, the third pillar of mama bliss values.
What values do we want to celebrate here? So how are we going to guard that and celebrate those? And by, you know, really engineering simplicity and building up the boundaries around ourselves, taking good care of ourselves so that we can move forward and inspire those around us by having, you know, our reality be something that is good and beautiful because the world is too. Mama bliss is also knowing. I know wastes of peace and love is the center of it all. So this is my sound redundant, but I am just about to offer a workshop here around fear. And a core premise of this too is often fear comes just from feelings of overwhelm. There is so much to do, there is so many expectations that we put on ourselves that others put on us, but we’re feeling too pulled in too many directions to find the strength to say no or to you know, just put her boundaries up again, always come back to boundaries and stuff.
But often I remember, I remember it just, it can feel like so much when we think of everything that there is to do and everything we want to do and we get reminded too of how short our, you know, our lifes are and how full this any spare time we have. How our time can get filled up with, you know, the busy-ness of life. So mama bliss to me too is knowing that while there is much out-breath going on in our day to day, there is just by laws of nature, a predictable in breath and peace and quiet that has to happen after periods of expenditure. So making sure that as much as we put ourselves out there into the world by nature, we get an opportunity to draw ourselves in and we just might not be aware of it. So let’s start observing how weak.
Become more aware of those times where we can be just gathering a moment to gather up our strengths and take our tasks one at a time and being fully present with each one of those. So again, with a field, there’s a pregnancy and birthing analogy here. So it’s again, with the contractions, it’s intense, but they are always followed by moments of deep rest and deep calm. We just had to remember to breathe and really embrace the calm. So just like I don’t know how birthing was with you. Of course, you know, you get a relief reprieve from the contractions, but it’s not like, Ooh, this is a day at the spa type relaxing. It’s just, there’s still kind of at times, you know, this anticipation of what’s coming next. But what if you reframed it and if you could take yourself back to that moment, if you had an opportunity to experience that labor dance, if you just really took a moment to, or, Ooh, this is a moment for me to relax.
I’m going to joke, I’m going to have a sip of water. I’m just going to just scan my body. Where can I let go of things a little bit? This is something that we can apply to for day to day and that little pocket of peace, almost like that little moment right in between the in-breath and out-breath, like literal breathing. There’s that hug, that split second of like nothing and what is not thing. Oh mind blown time. It’s a moment that we can appreciate again, the universal love for ourselves and outwards towards our kids and family members and inner tour community community and beyond. And yeah, that’s what I wrote in 2014 and in 2019 I’ll, I can add is mama bliss is just all knowing it is that internal wisdom almost like that mother’s wisdom, you know, mother knows best. Is that a saying?
It should be if it’s not and for us to access that all knowing it’s an opportunity for us to coach ourselves back to those four pillars to make sure that we are able to tap into mama bliss. So mama bliss, again, that’s, those are my definitions of it and I’m sure you can think back to what mama bliss is for you or what purpose it serves. But I think you can agree with me if any of this resonates with you at all. Mama bliss is crucial for the family unit and for the world’s and for ourselves. So a good way to keep it rocking and rolling is to be reminded of, okay, let’s take a pause here. Let’s assess what’s feeling wildly here because I’m feeling less than mama blissful and let’s do what we need to do so that we can access that all knowing within and then plan out our next little baby steps from there.
So if you’re feeling that you want to be coaching moms towards mama bliss or in some niche underneath mama bliss, then I love to talk to you. As I mentioned the beginning of this episode, I am offering discovery calls. So these are 45 minute chats. I would love to hear what your mama bliss is all at. When are you feeling called to serve in the world on a coaching or mentoring manner? Perhaps you’re already out there as a coach, but you’re feeling like niching down a little bit more towards helping moms with self care or picking up a few coaching tools to move your business forward in a new direction. We will spend that time to hear about your vision and then we will see what your next step should be. And perhaps it’s working with me one on one to become a mama best coach. So to do that, head over to www.blissbeyondnaptime.com/discovery-call and I’ll take you to map book and page, the book of time. I can’t wait to chat. Okay guys. So it was lovely to connect with you and my weekly show here and we will see you next week.