Part of the lure of getting to work from home is keeping a close check on your awesome mom status.
Even though the moments where you’re feeling you’re dropping the business ball, the wife ball, the best friend ball, the clean house ball – pretty much all the balls – do know your inner awesome mom is always lurking not too deep beneath the sometimes stressed-out surface.
If you’re working from home and getting stressed, or are just even thinking about it at this point and getting stressed, just know it only takes a little light shining on what might be holding you back from forgetting that even though you have more balls tossed your way than a ball boy (sorry, sport analogies aren’t my forte), your awesome mindset will soon reign supreme once again.
Begin with taking a deep breath and touch your awesomeness at the end of that inhale, and read on for a few ways to tickle your awesome mama within while your building on your work from home empire.
Perfection is the mother of all buzz kills when it comes to taking a step toward our dreams. Especially when those dreams are a chunky soup made up of life callings and passion swimming in a broth of full-on motherhood.
And this liquid concoction that we find ourselves in soon after we are handed our kid, reeks most heavily of the ‘P’ word. Perfection.
Perfection weighs heavy on a mama’s heart from day one. Here we are, handed these perfect, angelic little beings and instinctively we want only the best, and the best experiences for them.
I remember the first time I ever saw my daughter cry out in pain. I just wanted to curl up into an embryonic curl and cry like a baby myself. We needed to cut her nails for the first time when she was about four months old. I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I was scared I would cut her by accident. So I let Craig do it.
But he stepped up to the plate of pain.
The guilt that ensued. The look on her face when it registered in her teeny tiny brain that flesh has been pierced – I felt I allowed her perfect introduction to the world to sadly dismantled.
Perfection is a lot of pressure. And that motherly love makes the guilt that inevitably ensues quite the mother lode. It’s too much for one mama (and dada) to handle.
So release the perfection and the guilt while you’re at it.
Perfection can be paralyzing.
As much as it comes from a place of love, a place of wanting to be loved, nothing will get done if we wait for nary a hiccup to our day’s plans.
We can release perfection by consciously choosing a marketing plan and sticking with it. Bless its imperfections and typos you have yet to catch and release it to the world. You can always go back later and fix it.
Even writing this, I’m like… ewwwwww. And hat’s okay! Just makes me more lovable. Right? Ummm…right?
When You’re On, Be On
Notice when you’re around different people your personae subtly changes? I know, might sound a little cuckoo and borderline borderline, but it’s perfectly, imperfectly normal. So embrace this funny phenomena and have some fun with it!
The time of the day does this for me. And different times of the week, month, the people I’m around, the task at hand – all of these contribute to how I express myself, my energy levels, my mood.
Instead of beating myself about it, I work with my ‘on’ times and ‘off’ times.
Pay attention to how your energy levels pick up during the day and when it’s prime time to be ‘on’ for work and when to be ‘on’ for the kids. So put in those boundaries so you don’t get the mama CEO personae and baby mama personae all mixed up and competing for the spotlight when it’s awesomeness time.
Ways to support this ‘on’ time is to create a work from home schedule so that everyone in the family is aware of when you won’t be available like you normally are. And here’s where some nuance can come into play.
Still adhere to the perfectionist release piece. There will be days when you will be needing to let go of today’s regular programing. It’s not forever. And disruption is to be expected.
My kids are 9 and 13 and you would think that disruption to my assigned work hours would be a thing of the passed. HA!
There’s still always one home from school with an upset tummy. Or a pro-d day. Or a dentist appointment to take one to. Life happens and it’s never going to stop. So if you can get some precious time in to work – be on and focus on that.
And when it’s time to be with your kids, be on and be present with them in a way that replenishes your soul.
Embrace a Strong Daily and Weekly Rhythm
A way to keep your energy levels up and sustainable for work and mothering is by getting creative and see how you can let your energy naturally build up and recharge throughout your day, and week, and choreograph a rhythm around that.
For example, I notice that I’m at my most creative in the mornings. I get most of my work tasks done at this time. I notice too that my brain automatically shuts off around 5:00 so I rarely do much after this time work wise unless it’s a once in a while coaching client or interview.
And on the mothering front, I’m genuinely excited to see my kids afterschool so we have organically built in this ritual where we convene on the couch and sorta cuddle, regroup and get caught up on the stories of the day. To help me catch that second wind, the kids know that dinner happens around 5:30 and mama likes to take a bit of a lie down before dinner preparations so they are to vamoose outside for some play or do something else that
gets them out of my hair brings that back into their bodies.
Opportunities to honor our different personalities personas and our needs to connect with our beloved can also be seized with weekly rituals and routines as well. I have Saturday mornings to work or boost my Mama Bliss so the kids have Dada Fun Days to look forward to. And Dada gets Sundays for his on special brand of fun and the kids get to hang out with me which is usually alot less fun than the day before. But hey, I’m on like Donkey Kong in my own special way that can’t be replicated.
I take comfort that my kids chose me, knowing that one day I’d be working from home in this head scratching way, and getting inspired on some level from that.
Awesome mama is in the eye of the little beholder.
Make More Time Happen To Be Awesome
How to do that? Put your little witching mama pointy hat on and make super conscious decisions that are aligned with your desire for more time for yourself fully focused on you and your dreams AND more time to simply be present with your sweet little kiddos who are quietly cheering you on.
Need help with making some time mama? Check out my freebie below and I’ll show you my witch-y ways.