I love pototates straight from the garden so much (what can I say, it’s the Peruvian in me) we planted two beds of them this year. One bed the potatoes are a plenty the other, you kind of have to dig to China to get to them.
Kale was assisting me with this quest for a pot of mashed gold so I directed him to the less prolific bed to tucker him out so he’ll get to sleep early buying me more time to get cracking on my sausage dog sweater knitting project.
Oh yes. There is a method to my parenting.
It took us a while to find even a potato. And then Kale came up with the idea of asking Mother Earth for one (you can’t make this cow manure up!) and out popped a beauty. A teeny tiny beauty mind you and Kale said: “Awwww…aren’t potatoes cute?”.
And I said “Yes, and that’s why your new nickname is now Little Potato”.
And then he said “How about Little Potato Peach?”
Gawd I can seriously eat him sometimes.
And so we continued with his little prayer. We would ask “pretty please with Sucanat™ on top?” and voila ~ pomme de terre out of thin air!
And each time Little Potato Peach would say so sweetly it just made me want to consume him in one giant mouthful; “Thank you.”
Please and thank you are a the simplest way to invite rhythm to our children’s lives
We touch upon manners in the Rhythm module of my Simplicity Parenting Workshop series:
In the flow of the day’s words, noises, shouts and various utterances, this polite exchange stands out for children like a nursery rhyme, secure and familiar. It is also a code. In its regularity, politeness affirms and reaffirms our connection; the way we treat each other. ~ Kim John Payne
I love that.
Luckily we are naturally a very heavy handed please and thank you saying type family (we’re Canadian, after all) and it’s true that after being exposed to this beautiful dance of request and acknowledgement a forgotten please can be pulled out with the simple raise of a bushy eyebrow (it also doubles as my ‘hairy eyeball’ in restaurants when trying to capture a server’s attention) but more than usual it warrants a ‘what’s the magic word?”.
And this most basic sound byte of manners reminds us of our intent with simplifying our parenting
Out of all places, in a marketing book I was reading, Attracting Perfect Customers (because I’m trying to attract YOU. You like?) it stated something along the same vein but totally different:
Most of us were taught as children that saying “please” and “thank you” was a sign of having good manners. These words are much more than that. They help us keep focus on we desire. One helps to make a request; the other acknowledges our request has been answered.
This resonates with the essence of what Simplicity Parenting is to me; tapping into and rediscovering your deepest held wishes for your children and the world they will grow in to.
Keeping focus on on what we desire; our values passed on.
Acknowledge our request has been answered; gratitude.
Practicing this dance of what may appear like niceties and blind obedience making to some is actually the simplest way to offer, as Payne describes as “a deep sense of safety’ and ‘base beat of predictability”.
Stir that up with the concept of these utterances serving as a reminder of focusing on our values and gratitude for what we receive; what a wonderful world filled of endless pots of mashed potatoes, comfort in the predictability of the growing season and appreciation for even the littlest of nuggets of joy we are introducing our little potato peaches to.
Thank you for reading; share your thoughts on p’s and q’s and kids in the comments. Pretty please?